I did three shortened tours in the Navy in Hawaii and had some of my greatest and worst life experiences while I was there. One word that comes to mind when I think of Hawaii and the subject of this post is Ohana.
From Wikipedia: “Part of Hawaiian culture, ʻ ohana means family (in an extended sense of the term, including blood-related, adoptive or intentional).The concept emphasizes that families are bound together and members must cooperate and remember one another.”
This is for my Facebook Ohana.
Some things are harder to do than others. I quit smoking many years ago when I finally got past the excuse of “I just like the way it feels to smoke” and realized it was cutting my life short. At my age, I also know that I no longer have the ability to eat and drink anything I want since there are obvious negative consequences. For some unfair reason, my body no longer metabolizes all of the things I wish to consume and my physical appearance and health reflect that.
One of the addictions I have been struggling with for some time now is Facebook.
It all started so innocently. I wasn’t going to spend much time on it but it was an easy way to connect with old friends from the Navy and High School. (My college friends were almost all navy since it was a program that was run through Navy Campuses). In the years since I have been a member of Facebook, I have seen three Presidents, more changes in Congress than I can count, and uncounted upheavals to society caused by movements and tragedies. The daily barrage from Facebook from friends and people who I do not know has probably helped shape my opinions and certainly stoked my emotions more than a few hundred times.
Facebook has been like a family in many ways.
We love, we fight, we remember each other’s birthdays, we share our sadness at the loss of a loved one (including our beloved animals). We argue, we agree, we find common ground, we are divided. We share our inmost personal beliefs and concerns with perfect strangers (sometimes at the expense of our actual families). In all that time and all of the thousands of postings, I am absolutely convinced that no ones mind’s were really changed no matter how witty, how sincere, how passionate, or how mean a post was.
I have (as of March 28th, 2018) over 970 friends. I used to have over a thousand but some have left my “family” in silence. To be fair, I have also banished some along the way. Perhaps it was something I said? Or maybe something they posted? Probably a bit of both.
Facebook has been convenient for me to achieve some personal goals.
I administer a number of pages about submarines, reunions, cats, World War 2 History (which is a passion) and I used it for my business. Truth be told, I have never actually gotten one sale from FB but that may be just as much about my service as it is about the ability to sell my service. To be fair, I have had some satisfaction also. My submarine and lean blog has had many of its nearly 370,000 readers come from postings on Facebook. Maybe that’s why you came today.
You have shared parts of your lives and your travels and I have done the same. I am glad for those who made my life richer from their stories. The part I have really loved about Facebook has been my ability to listen as much as I want to and when it becomes to long winded, I can click off and go to another story. That beats the hell out of the Thanksgiving Day table after dinner where the only escape you have from a long winded or too often repeated old story is to feign sleep or the need to get up and stretch at the earliest possible break in the action.
In the last couple of weeks (or has it been months), I have noticed that FB has become a very dark place. I’m not just talking about Mr. Zuckerburg comparing his site to the new Church or the nefarious dealings of people who have harvested and misused our personal data. I honestly believe both of those things happen with such regularity now that they are commonplace in many arenas.
The darkness comes from within me. I am angry about things that I can’t control most of the time and I am failing to do the positive things that I believe that are required of us as humans and certainly of someone who claims to follow Christ.
So I am going to take some time off. On April 1st, all of my FB pages that I have created will go dark. I will clean up my computer and I Phone and delete any links to the site. I am sure that the world will not come to a stop.
April 1st this year is the day we celebrate Easter. The Resurrection of the Living God. A time of redemption for all who wish to follow Him. It seems like as good a day to get a restart as any.
I will miss many people that truly have become family (some for the second time). You will all be in my prayers. If you need to get in touch with me, you can still email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or you can visit the leansubmariner web site at www.theleansubmariner.com
There are over 600 stories on the page now and I intend to continue to write as long as I have another story left in me.
It has been amazing over the years to share so much with so many people on Facebook. I am grateful for the prayers you have sent our way through many of those years. I hope to meet you again someday. Until then, I leave you with one of my favorite words; Aloha.
Aloha, I have been told, has three meanings.
Hello, Goodbye and I love you.
Seems like the most fitting word for this day.
Aka Mister Mac
12 thoughts on “Aloha to my Facebook Ohana”
I will email so we can continue to stay in touch!
That will be great my friend. I wish you much respect
Aloha, Bob. I am glad I receive your missives via email and will look forward to continuing to ‘hear’ the various witticisms and wisdom you produce. I too have struggled with trying to be a ‘force for good’ (with apologies to the recruitment commercial for the Navy) on Facebook, but all to often find myself dragged into the ‘slough of despond’ by the hysteria. It may be time for me to take a vacation from Facebook. Fair winds and following seas, my friend.
Thanks Tony. You know I have a kind of a dislike for that whole “force for good” slogan 🙂
Stay in touch my friend. I have really appreciated your feedback
Your emails are the ones I look forward to the most. Please keep me on your email list if you can. I lost my submariner husband while he was on Patrol…..at a very young age……and your emails with the stories and the history help keep his memory and what he did alive for me. Thank you.
Proud of You! I live with you so I will see and hear from you every day!
Its a journey. I will probably have more stumbles along the way. This will just be one less. I love you very much
Well said my freind
I thoroughly enjoy your emails. I also understand your facebook concerns. I enjoy the contact/connection that facebook provides with shipmates but have serious issues with all the information we provide to FB and whoever else might gain the data. Proud to have had the opportunity to serve the submarine force. Look forward to your next missive, fair winds and following seas, shipmate!
I know what addictions are…and very suspect that I am addicted to FB. Have to figure out how to stop getting notifications from so many (to many) FB pages. Bob — will email you so we can stay in touch. So looking forward to your book. Nancy (SubmarineSister1)
Thanks Nancy… getting a little closer each day
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